Crabgrass and Dandelions


Crabgrass – Photo from “Virginia Tech Weed Identification Guide”

Do not let the name fool you. It isn’t really grass.  It is green, but that’s where the similarities end.

 Once this ugly weed takes root it spreads all over.  Once it spreads it starts to choke the healthy grass.  The roots run deep into the ground. You can pull it up, but unless you get to the root it will just keep coming back.
Our negative self-perceptions are a lot like this.  Our internal thoughts manifest themselves in a material way.  If our thoughts are ugly, we are ugly.  If we have self-deprecating thoughts, we depreciate our value as a human being.

Just like with the crabgrass we can try to just do a quick fix.  We can run from our thoughts by going on vacation, or cover them up with a smile. All the while the root of the problem remains.  

Remove the root and you remove the issue.  Just treating the surface will never do.

Sometimes the digging deep can hurt, but it is a necessary proccess to remove what lies deep beneath the surface.


Think back to your childhood. Did you ever blow on a dandelion and watch the little white things float through the air?  I loved doing that.
I don’t love it anymore. In fact, I cringe when I see our kids do it because I know that those “little white things” are seedlings. They may be tiny, but they can easily turn into a bigger problem. More dandelions.

Pretty soon you have an entire lawn of those yellow weed, flower wanna-be’s. It does not stop at just your lawn. It starts to spread to your neighbor’s lawn as well.

Deceit is much like this.  It all starts out innocent enough.  We tell a little “white lie”.  We float the lie out there and think that it is over, but it has just begun.

Pretty soon that lie forces us into another lie…. and another one.  Before we know it our lives are nothing, but one lie after another.  We can even trick ourselves into believing the lies.  We tell ourselves that we have a flower garden; when in fact we just have one giant weed bed.

The worst part is that it no longer just affects our lives, but everyone around us.

The next time you see a patch of crabgrass or a dandelion stop and think about your life.  Is there anything that you need to remove that is choking your spiritual life?  If so, take a moment to get to the root of the problem.  You’ll be glad you did.

Get to the root of the problem and your hard work will likely pay off… and for goodness sake please don’t blow on the dandelions!

What is Bob’s BLT?

KITCHENI think I know what you are thinking…

What is this site about? Bob’s BLT?

I thought about going a more professional route, but then I realized something.

I am not an entirely professional person.

That’s not to say I’m a slob or that I do not care.  On the contrary. I want to help you and the only way I can do that is by being me.

Goofy & awkward.

So, let’s get down to it.

Our lives… not an accident. We were created for a purpose.  What is your purpose?  Why are you here?

I cannot figure that out for you, but I can help.  I can also help you live a life that will be pleasing to the God who created you. The only one who knows your entire story.

In the coming weeks/months you will start to follow me through my personal journey.  You will also start to understand the importance of the FOUR Ls:

  • LIFE – Living life like every moment matters
  • LOVE – Building & maintaining strong relationships
  • LEAD – Leading others even when it is easier to be a follower
  • LEGACY – Influencing others to pick up where you leave off

Here is the secret ingredient to Bob’s BLT:

I don’t have this all figured out yet.

I am not an expert. I am just a guy. I want to live up to the life that God intended for me. I want that for you too.

I need your help.

What are some things you need help with? Would love to help you, or connect you with someone who can.

About Bob Speakman

Welcome to BobSpeakman.Com

Welcome to BobSpeakman.Com

For me its about finally taking MY road less traveled.

I have listened to others tell their stories of failure and redemption. I have seen others reach their full potential.  I have watched as someone finds their “dream” only to realize it did not make them happy.

It is time to start to tell you my story.  Ironically, this story is about you too.

Life is filled with mundane everyday choices.  What seems to matter so little today has impact in this world. You might not see it right away. You might not even see it at all; maybe it doesn’t impact your life, but the life of someone else.

Have you ever sat down and discussed the story of  your life with a loved one? 

If my wife and I had stayed in our apartment instead of moving into a small “mother in law” suite (both of us thought the other one wanted to live there to save money – we both hated it),  we would have never been motivated to buy a house.

We also may not have learned the valuable lesson on communicating to each other.  As my wife and I discussed our lives to this point, one item after another popped in our heads about what would have been different had we not made that initial decision to move into what we affectionately refereed to as “the box”.

Same goes for our relationship.  We missed meeting each other multiple times, but finally did at a school dance – her school’s dance – that I went to with a friend.  The choice to go to the dance ultimately lead to my girlfriend breaking up with me.  At the dance I met her, I shook her hand and we danced.

We would eventually start dating, get married and have two wonderful kids.  All because of a decision to go to a dance that wasn’t at my school and was far from my comfort zone. One decision affected the course of our lives.

It does not have to be big decision either.  Holding a door for someone and smiling as you say “hello” to them.  You may have turned a day around that otherwise could have ended tragically.

Choose to forgive someone instead of holding a grudge.  Work hard even when no one watches because your character depends on it.  Love someone even when they don’t show love back to you.

Everything happens for a reason. You are reading my words at this very moment for a reason that you might not know yet.  Maybe you’re hurt and need to know someone cares.  Maybe you need someone to pray for you.  Maybe you’re afraid to fail so you won’t chase your dream with everything you have.

Now is your time.  You cannot change your past.  You can reflect on it and see how your decisions affected you and others. You can, however, change your future.

The trajectory of your path to excellence can take a sharp turn upward today. 

The decisions you make today will affect you and others around you for many years to come.  Is that scary? It most definitely is. However, it should also be exhilarating.

You cannot do anything about the decisions you made leading up to this very moment, but your future is up for grabs.  Every decision matters. Every good choice paves a path to excellence. Every poor decision sets you back a few steps.

Make a decision today to build your legacy one choice at a time.  I’ll be praying for you as you do.  Would love to hear from you. Drop me a line in the comments if you need a prayer request or have a comment.